In his post on romantic love and marriage Dalrock lays it out right:
This isn’t to say that romantic love in marriage is bad. To the contrary, it is truly wonderful! But it isn’t sanctifying. It is marriage that sanctifies romantic love and sex, but in our modern rebellion we have twisted this around and assert that romantic love sanctifies marriage and sex.
In our rebellion we have twisted not only this around, but
nearly everything is twisted around wrong. Instead of reason and faith leading to emotion we have emotion and especially emotionalism being the basis for faith and the “reason”, which is ironic because it turns out to be anything but true reason, for what we think.